Another Monday down, I did not wake up early due to a long and stressful night of driving.
We went out this weekend with friends and had a great time and it was a great little getaway from our little town. We danced, talked ate too much and had such a great weekend.
We all got to spend some time together before the hectic part of summer comes to an end. Kids are going back to school and one of my friends is a teacher. I just realized over the weekend how important it is to surround yourself with people who will help you succeed and who will not support you with what goals you have set for yourself.
I also read an extremely great blog about "being at the table you won't be talked about when you get up and leave." I found that so important. I know gossiping seems to be an extremely never ending trend. Gossiping starts all the way back in elementary and begins to become the driving factor in many friend groups. As we grow older why do we as people never stop this "talking of others". Why do we let the gossip be the main point of a subject. Why can't we all talk about ourselves, our goals, what is going on in our lives and leave it a that? We don't have to talk about "Betty and, did you hear what her boy did with that other kid..." or whatever the "tea" is. Why not let other peoples problems be just that, THEIR PROBLEMS.
Instead of sitting and gossiping about someones life, why not say hey we don't need to talk about that. It is not helping anyone's situation by talking and probably coming up with assumptions that lead to rumors about someone else's business. I am not going to act like I have never talked about someone, I will be the first to admit I am guilty about it. I try to catch myself when I start, but sometimes it is like a "bred" habit that has become the "norm" that many people do not see anything wrong with it.
Don't be that person, do not try to befriend someone when they are around and as soon as they leave start talking about the things they trusted you with knowing. I think that is why I do not have many friends, and the two friends I do have have been my friends since high school. Sure we have gone through spurts of not seeing each other and there was a point where we all started growing apart. We also had little spurts of talking bad about people. I can for sure tell you we did not do that this weekend. We all had a great time, we had fun and that was that.
I hope my friends also had an amazing time. I hope they know I don't talk behind their backs and that I am rooting them on with their life. I hope their families grow, I hope their job is forever something they enjoy. I also hope they achieve everything they want in life. I want them to be successful, and I hope that if they don't fulfill what they think they need to, I won't see them any differently. I will help them when they need it and I hope if we somehow move away and stop talking that their life continues to be great for them. I am sure they feel the same for me. I hate the viral trend of hating on someone because they are doing better than you. Good for them is what I have always thought, if they manage to become rich and famous or become 10 times more successful than me, than I think that is amazing! I hope you all have friends in your life who are cheering for your success. Who do not drag you down, and if you don't then you need new friends. Find people who will be honest with you, who will support you goals and who will be your cheerleaders in life. Don't forget to be their cheerers in life too though. You can not take and then not give back, that is what friendship about.
Hope you all find your cheerleaders, and I wish you all success in whatever you are striving for! I also hope you realize that who you surround yourself with will either make you or break you. Your parents were right when they said it. Hang out with people who will speak great things over you and into you. Do not surround yourself with people who do not see their future, and who do not think life has anything to offer. Life is a struggle and it is not fair. It will never be fair, find that group of people who you can share your struggle and victories with. There is nothing better than a great friendship where all of you can become successful.
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